These are books I pulled from my office bookcase. Some are 30 years old but still relevant and helpful. I list them in no particular order, although I do think the first one, The Guide to Getting It On, is the single best guide to sex I’ve ever read. Millions of other people apparently do too, as it has been updated annually for decades.
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  THE GUIDE TO GETTING IT ON, 6th edition — Paul Joannides, PsyD, & Daerick Gross, Sr.
Written for the sexual newbie but wonderful for the experienced as well. I’ve been an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist for 30-plus years, and I still learn something new every time I read it. Be prepared for its hugeness! This is a BIG book, but never boring. You’ll want to read some passages to your Beloved, Then maybe put the book down and turn down the lights. |
  SEX MATTERS FOR WOMEN: A COMPLETE GUIDE TO TAKING CARE OF YOUR SEXUAL SELF— Sallie Foley, MSW; Sally A. Kope, MSW; Dennis P. Sugrue, PhD
One of the best books around. Compassionate, empathetic, sees women as dear people, not case histories. It’s also a page-turner! I recommend it highly. |
  THE COMPLETE IDIOT’S GUIDE TO AMAZING SEX,3rd edition — Sari Locke
I didn’t become aware of this book until I was commissioned, by an imprint branch of Penguin, to write Sizzing Sex in 30 Days. The idiot’s guide is terrific. |
  HOT MONOGAMY— PATRICIA LOVE, MD
Dr. Love excels at helping couples communicate lovingly and directly. Her writing style is accessible, too. Pat helps couples bridge that gap between what they’d like to say and how they can. (And that’s her real name!) |
  PUT PASSION FIRST— Carol Cassell, PhD
OK, well, I have to confess my bias here. Dr. Carol Cassell is one of my heroes, professionally and personally. She is funny, wise, and kind. She is one of the mid-pioneers of sex therapy and a great researcher, and this book is electrifying. When I first learned of it, I thought, “Yeah, but what if you didn’t put passion first, and now you’re ten years married and have no spark at all.” Then I got to the part that tells how to bring the sparks forth. That makes this a must-have not only for dating couples but also for Old-time marrieds. |
  THE NEW JOY OF SEX— Alex Comfort, MB, DSc
When this book first came out in 1972, showing a myriad of ways to have and enjoy sex, I was totally intimidated. It had pictures! (Just line drawings, but still…!) Not only was I still kind of shy, but I thought the book was a must-do manual, and some of that stuff I did NOT want to do. Then I realized it was simply a menu from which to choose; obviously I had overlooked its subtitle: A Gourmet Guide to Lovemaking. So I started choosing, and my personal sex life blossomed thereafter and so did my mind and self-esteem. So much so, that I enrolled in Graduate school to learn more about sexuality and intimate communication, and here I am now, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Diplomate 30+ years later. Thanks, Alex, wherever you are. |
  SEX SMART: HOW YOUR CHILDHOOD SHAPED YOUR SEXUAL LIFE AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT— Aline P. Zoldbrod, PhD
Maybe you already know this. Chances are you don’t, not fully, and Dr. Zoldbrod takes you there gently and inspiringly. As one Amazon reviewer said, her message is: “Sexual problems exist within the context of a relationship and a whole life—they are not only about bodies and bedrooms.” Exactly. |
  FOR YOURSELF— Lonnie Garfield Barbach, PhD
Lonnie Barbach is a sexual pioneer. This book, written over 35 years ago, is still a go-to classic guide for a woman to find and enhance her own sexuality. It is ideal for the sexually inhibited woman or one who just can’t seem to q-u-i-t-e get to orgasm. Best of all, it reminds us that we are all responsible for our own pleasure. Someone else can’t GIVE you an orgasm but can only help you in releasing your own. |
  HOW TO HAVE AN ORGASM … AS OFTEN AS YOU WANT— Rachel Swift
And in the same vein, Rachel Swift is girl-friendly and direct about how to discover and enhance your own sexuality. The author is relaxed, reassuring, often funny — a real-life non-therapist offering a step-by-step approach and lots of permission and encouragement. |
  FOR WOMEN ONLY — Jennifer Berman, MD & Laura Berman, PhDThis duet of sisters Drs. Berman and Berman became a best seller (or something like it) right away. They have a huge media presence — syndicated TV show, fspecial clinic, etc. Many case histories that might help you rediscover yourself. Dr. Jennifer is a gynecologist, Dr. Laura a sex therapist and the more media-savvy and visible one. She was recently on an Oprah-sponsored one-hour show that sparked much appreciation from its female viewers. |
  ROMANCE 101 (1001 WAYS TO BE ROMANTIC) — Gregory J. P. Godek
Here’s another one that is apparently out of print, but over a hundred are available (used) for a penny. Yet the three Amazon reviews extol its wonderfulness. Personally, I applaud the romantic approach to intimacy, whether sex is involved or not. If you’re a left-brain problem-solver who doesn’t immediately think of ways |
Useful Websites…
www.AASECT.org — The premiere credentialing and governing body for Certified Sex Therapists. Click on Locate a Professional, then on the map of your area to see if you have a certified therapist near you.
www.aphroditewomenshealth.com — Offers a world of information, as well as a discussion forum on a wide range of subjects.
www.drlauraberman.com — This is one of the premiere sites for women’s resources. Oprah gave Laura a half-hour special show. Her site provides fabulous information, including forums and private chats with other women about all aspects of intimacy — relationships, sex, toys, positions, anything you want to ask or know.
www.patlove.com — Dr. Pat Love is the author of Hot Monogamy and a world-wide speaker. There’s good stuff here.
www.wayswomenorgasm.org — Ways Women Orgasm is a female sexuality forum for women to share helpful hints for reaching orgasm (and for men to learn a thing or two about how to be better lovers). Think of it as a giant slumber party … lights are dim, good girlfriends helping each other with stories from their own lives.
Sex Toys…
To find others, use adult sex toys as your search phrase.
There are some good sex toys among the intimidating ones, so go on an Easter egg hunt for devices you think would be useful and fun for yourself or with each other. For newbies I recommend the plain old ribbed rocket-shaped (yes, I know, penis-like) battery-driven vibrator. Ladies, use it gently on your vulva, rolling it back and forth. You might prefer gentle vibrations from nearby, but not directly on, your clitoris. Insertion is not necessary, though at some point it might feel great.
These sites are also good sources for massage oils, soft feathers, and other items for expanding your sensuality.
And please let me know what you find that you really like.
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