Dear Roz: If you had to give a “Golden Rule” for a successful relationship, what would it be?

===> The 3 A’s: attention, appreciation, affection—plus respect and self-care. That means listening appreciatively to each other (you don’t have to agree, but you can respect your partner’s viewpoint).  Also hugging and kissing and fanny-patting and occasional loving (or funny)greeting cards or flowers. Putting down what you’re doing and really focusing on your partner.

The Golden Rule talks about acting toward others the way you want people to act toward you. So be sure you adhere to the Golden Rule for YOURSELF, and treat yourself with the same respect, attention, appreciation, and affection as you do your mate. -Roz