Sexuality Coach

Rejuice your life, reclaim your body, reinvigorate your outlook!

STAIRWAY TO YOUR PERSONAL STARS

© Roz Van Meter, 2002, 2009

To me, starting a new year is like opening the door to a lovely floating stairway.  All I have to do is point it toward where I really, REALLY want to go, and then just take one step at a time till I get there.

Most of us carry large, responsible loads all day, and then barely find time for themselves. Weekends are filled with errands, clean-up, taxi service, family responsibility, house maintenance — and soon it’s Sunday night and time to start all over.

Here’s a process for exploring your own stairway.

1)  Imagine. Think about what you really want, visualize it, fantasize yourself moving through it — feeling, seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting what it would/will be like.  Sometimes that takes a while, but it’s hugely exciting.

2)  Decide. Is it time? Do you really want it now? Is the price of admission too high at this time, or is it worth it?

3)  Strategize. Figure out what you can offload to make time and energy for climbing.

  • Less late-night TV, earlier to bed, rise an hour earlier.
  • Or serve meals on smaller plates and only fill them once.
  • Or delegate the weightiest chores to someone they hire.
  • Or tell your loved ones you need a weekend alone, and ask for help in making that happen.

4)  Just do it. One step at a time.

Here are some of my coaching clients’ successes:

  • A highly successful tech writer has committed three hours a week to a long-dreamed-of novel, and so far has sent me the first five chapters. I can hardly put it down!
  • A single professional woman has put her house on the market, realizing she wanted a condo instead — less upkeep, less expense, more time and money for living.
  • A physician has cut back his practice by one day a week. That’s all he wanted, just one day to do whatever he feels like. No projects, just balance and lightness.

My own unrequited passion was to write an ebook about healthy, passionate living, with sensuality and pleasure.  This week I put in three hours a day on polishing it, and it’s shaping up nicely. I haven’t reached the sky yet, but the air is definitely clearing.

Announcing that you’re gonna Go For It is powerful. Somehow that declaration gives extra lift to your wings. (Have you seen the movie Chicken Run?)

Remember to have a good time while you’re stepping. It’s the trip itself that’s most worthwhile, not necessarily the destination.

Which is true of Life, come to think of it.

 

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New program for Women!

You don’t have to look like J-Lo to feel sexy! Ultimately, sexy is a belief, an attitude. It comes from deep inside, from confidence, from self-esteem, from self-knowledge. 

Age, size, weight, body shape, hair length, tooth whiteness, butt tightness… none of that matters. What matters is your INTENTION.

My new program will help you find it, so you can free yourself to Be Intentionally Sexy, and reap the joyful benefits of feeling your full womanhood, out loud and out proud. (And no, you don’t have to dress like THAT to achieve it.) CLICK HERE to learn more.

 

Jump-start your intimacy connection with this free re-awakening gift.

Request my FREE six-part Intimacy Enhancement Series–delivered straight to your email inbox, with ideas for clear, effective communication and renewed sensuality.

It’s a simple, safe and fun guide to putting the joy and passion back into your relationship, and draws on the 30+ years that I have been helping couples find more pleasure in their most important relationships.

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Whatever your situation—if something isn’t working or you simply want more—I’ll help you get more light and warmth into your bedroom, deepen your love, and enhance your pleasure and intimacy.

I listen deeply, understand quickly, and connect with my clients. I’ll learn your stories, talk your language, help you fix what’s challenging you, and expand your own gifts, pleasure, and passion.

Whatever it is, let’s talk about it. I can help!

Just click HERE for an email form or call 214.361.0500, leave your name and number. Either way, I’ll call you back to arrange an appointment. It's easy. — Roz

 

For more than three decades, as a licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapist in Dallas, Texas, I have helped thousands of people understand, enjoy, and share their sexuality with mutual delight. Now I’m bringing that help to individuals and couples all across the country.

For your sexuality to be expressed in a comfortable, safe, and exciting way, you need to learn what might be getting in the way. I’ll provide real-world help to create the kind of sexual expression you both want. It honors and strengthens your relationship, the most important ingredient for sexual satisfaction.

increase intimacy, trust & confidence

I believe in cultivating “No-Fault Intimacy!” You can discover reasons for sexual dissatisfaction, disinterest, even dysfunction, without assigning blame.

After we have discovered the Why of an obstacle or challenge, we can create the How that promotes sensual, intimate sex, tailored specifically to your own rhythms and relationship.

UNDER THE BLANKET

Here are some of the reasons you might be seeking a relationship/sexuality coach. See which one(s) you relate to. I have experience in all of them.

  • ED – erectile dysfunction (getting or maintaining) - ladies, take our ED Quiz for Women and learn how you can assist your man in coping with this
  • rapid ejaculation
  • arousal problems
  • orgasm problems (inorgasmia)
  • painful intercourse
  • diminished or lost libido (sexual desire)
  • frequency issues
  • communication problems
  • stress from finances, new baby, work

WHAT NEXT?

The navigation bars will take you to ideas and information I think you’ll enjoy. Take your time, mosey through this website, and give me feedback on what you found helpful or would like to follow up on.

 


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How It Works

Sex Therapy is scary to a lot of people. Sexuality Coaching is a little less so.

But really, if you connect with the therapist/coach, it’s like talking to a best friend.

You may be experiencing sexual disinterest, dissatisfaction, or dysfunction. If so, please know that you are not alone. Our fast-paced, high-pressure culture can play havoc with easy, sensual sex.

Maybe what you mostly need is a safe way to tell your truth, to yourself and each other, about what you want, what turns you off, or what unfinished business you want to clear out and be done with.

No Report Cards!

We learned the blame game back when we were children. We got grades from toddlerhood on … assessments from parents, grades in school, fitting in (or not) on the playground, being accepted (or not) in high school. When we didn’t measure up to some arbitrary standard, we were often made to feel wrong, even ashamed.

Fast forward to adulthood. Where sex is concerned, that same anxiety, or lack of understanding or skills, can again make you feel inadequate or avoidant. Your journey with me will give you the confidence, skill, sensitivity, and self-esteem to overcome whatever roadblock gets in your way — and this increased self-assurance may well show up in other aspects of your life.

Whatever it is, we’ll find a way around it!

I’ll be your coach and your support system as you overcome sexual concerns, become more deeply connected, have more pleasure. I’ll share important information and offer behavioral suggestions, assignments, and encouragement. I’ll help you create new ways of thinking and techniques to enhance your mutual pleasure in ways that fit exactly for your personality.

Strategies

  • better timing
  • more sensuality
  • greater respect for each yourself and each other

Thinking – discovering what you’re telling yourself that’s:

  • incorrect
  • not useful
  • unkind

Techniques:

  • tips and healthy games to enrich pleasure
  • specific fixes for certain dysfunctions

For Yourself:

Perhaps you need to say “no” to some things you’ve accepted that don’t fit for you, and “yes” to some that you’ve been denying yourself.

You might decide to take a giant step into a new kind of life, or baby steps to enrich some old familiar ones.

For Each Other:

Perhaps you’ll reclaim your romance with sensual music, candles, or a wine lover’s bedroom picnic.

Maybe you’ll decide to get more playful, give pet names to what Monty Python called your “naughty bits”, or make mad love in the hot tub.

Or it may be that all you’ll have to do is start telling your truth about what you want, about what turns you off, about unfinished business you want to clear out and be done with.

Whatever it is, let’s talk about it. I can help!

Just click HERE for an email form or call 214.361.0500, leave your name and number. Either way, I’ll call you back to arrange an appointment. It's easy. — Roz

 

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